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Why so sad?


Betty Draper "coping with her cigarette"

Betty Draper from Mad Men "coping with her cigarette"

I am finding depression and anxiety very prevalent in the women I see going through the medical system. It does not seem to matter what socio-economic bracket these women are from they appear to be equally touched by these disorders.

Have there always been this many women struggling with depression and anxiety? Is there more pressure on women now, are we less stimulated, not as connected to our physical self, living in our heads. Did women used to cope in different ways that are not acceptable anymore, such as heavy duty anti-anxiety meds such as valium and the non prescription Merlot? Do women have more pressure on them, more requirements of their time and attention? Or is it a higher report rate; are women just more open with talking about their challenges and willing to accept treatment?

I am not sure of the answer. I have not done any kind of study but I really am surprised how many women seem to be struggling with these potentially debilitating disorders.

Could it be that women in the past have asked for the right to do everything and now our generation is paying the price? Great, now we get to care for the kids, work full-time, handle the banking, food shop, make the food, clean up after the food, wash, fold and put away the laundry, pets to the vet, buy the pet food, and so on and so on, not to mention mowing the lawn, and taking out the garbage. What happened to the pink and blue jobs?

What is to be done about depression and anxiety? I know that I suffer from a low to moderate anxiety. I am a worrier. I sometimes get a cramp in the pit of my stomach when I forget what I was worrying about, then I remember and I feel a sense of relief when I am able to go back to worrying again. I have experienced and acute depression before and it was not fun.

We are often so concerned with our physical health and appearance, what is so different about taking care of our mental health?

For me the things that have been helping me control my anxiety is EXERCISE. What do you know exercise can help keep you physically and mentally healthy? Fighting chaos by keeping my house in order, planning meals, looking ahead on the calendar, all help me keep the anxiety at bay.

People who are self described type A’s are really employing a self protection device. They know their limits for anxiety and they set boundaries for what is acceptable to them. I kind of understand now. I do have a bit of the Type A in me but there is also a messy rebel who does not want to do all of the cleaning on her list (wink Mom).

Not really sure where this rant is going…I wonder if there is a study or a master’s thesis in the study of women’s mental health.


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Nearly there

Me with my beautiful girls on their 11th birthday

Me with my beautiful girls on their 11th birthday

I am closing in on  my weigh loss goal and I am finding myself swinging between being totally on plan, focused and being chaotic and bingey. I think that I have reconciled with the fact that I will be exercising frequently,with intensity for the rest of my life. Exercise is not just for weight loss it is for creating and maintaining a healthy body. There I said it. I used to often wonder why “skinny people” were wasting their time in the gym. Hmm they want a healthy body.

I found myself in to the 170’s (barely but I was there) and then the weekend happened and then a week of 12 hour shifts slammed me in the face. The key to my success is preparedness. Easy enough said….I would love to make a weekly plan and then just stick to it, but alas my schedule is different every week and then there are kids, activities, weather changes, sick family members,commitments , extra work…. The planning and scheduling needs to be a consistent effort.  Some times I just want to stomp my feet and pout, but alas I must go on.

Goals for the week:

Exercise daily, 15 min walk upon waking and then 45-60 min at the or running or cycling.

Have meals planned and food purchased

Family doing their part

Setting boundaries re: extra work

I am going to set the timer for 20 min for house cleaning then off to the gym then eat lunch, then rest before the kids get home., then food shop, make dinner, then go to work for 12 hour night shift.

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not busy enough…

mark and macy

mark and macy

I am of course referring to the puppy in the picture. We all know that husbands can be quite time consuming as well, but the puppy is the new factor in my life. Her name is Macy. We have a Chocolate Lab called Hoha (Gogga in Afrikaans, he came with the name and the kids insisted we not change it). Sooo our new puppy needed a cute name and Mark researched Afrikaans words and came up with Meicie which means “girl or lass”  luckily our puppy is a girl. We simplified the spelling to Macy.

I am starting to wonder why we do this to ourselves? Do we love the thrill of the new?? Or do we let things come to us and accept them as they were meant to be. Originally we just admired this little pup at the SPCA but for some reason she kept coming back on our radar. We ended up picking her up the day before we went camping and she was a dream aside from her dew claws incision becoming infected (thank goodness there was a nurse around). She just chilled at the camp site, rode well in the car, and only peed in the tent once.

Some times things might seem overwhelming and too much but maybe the universe is trying to give you a little nudge. I suppose I would rather live a busy somewhat hectic life rather than look back on a completely calm and organized life with regrets.

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Chores, chores, chores…

the image i found when i googled chaos

the image i found when i googled chaos

I am at the end of my rope with the paper that comes in to the house.  No matter how many times I sort, file, and recycle the frickin paper it is still drowning me. I find it so hard to focus on making me a better me when the house is so chaotic. I feel that the kids should be pitching in more, but then they get home from they are so exhausted, or there is an after school activity,and then before you know it bed time rolls around. I suppose I also don’t want to be a slave driver… but I am not doing them any favours but not instilling a work ethic in them. I am obsessed with Till Debt Do Us Part a money managment show on TV. Gail has articles on her website about kids and money. 

We have done the chore chart before with good success, but any program works only as well as the people behind it. I have struggled with paying the kids for chores or giving them an allowance to help them learn how to manage money and they have to do chores for no compensation because they are part of a family. For the most part when I as the girls to do something they are quite accomodating.

I wonder if live will be a continuous cycle of tearing stuff out of closets, leaving it in a pile for weeks and then finally stuffing it somewhere else because company is coming.

Do you have any ideas for keeping organized?

What does this all have to do with running? In the past I have let myself spiral in to a depression and give up exercise when I am feeling overwhelmed by the mess and chaos. So it is all related and needs to be address in order to be successful.

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